SARC Domestic Violence Information

Domestic Violence is defined as a learned pattern of behavior, in an intimate relationship, in which one partner uses various methods to gain and maintain power and control

Are you being abused?

Does Your Partner…

  1. Call your house frequently, even when you are not home?
  2. Ask you where you have been and who you were with?
  3. Act jealous?
  4. Put down your friends and/or family?
  5. Embarrass you or make fun of you in front of other people?
  6. Intimidate you?
  7. Pressure you to do things that make you uncomfortable?
  8. Use drugs and alcohol as and excuse for hurtful behavior?
  9. Get extremely angry at you and you don’t know why?
  10. Minimize how badly you are hurt?
  11. Threaten you with force, weapons, or words?
  12. Tell you he/she can’t live without you?
  13. Make you feel trapped?
  14. Isolate you from family or friends?
  15. Get angry when someone shows you attention?
  16. Suggest or tell you how to dress?
  17. Make you afraid with looks or gestures?
  18. Show up unexpectedly when you are out with others?
  19. Drive by your house frequently?
  20. Give gifts after a fight?
  21. Treat you like a servant?
  22. Constantly call or show up at your work?
  23. Threaten to commit suicide if you leave?
  24. Put you down or call you names?
  25. Throw things?
  26. Lock you out of the car or house?
  27. Threaten to leave you stranded somewhere?
  28. Repeatedly call your cell phone until you answer?
  29. Push you?
  30. Hit you?
  31. Choke you?
  32. Punch you?

If you answered yes to any of these questions you may be in an abusive relationship and could be at risk of being seriously injured or killed.

Domestic Violence Resources

The Power and Control Wheel describes the overall pattern of abusive and violent behaviors which are used by a batterer to establish and maintain control over his partner. For comparison, the Equality Wheel shows the qualities of an equal relationship.

The Cycle of Violence illustrates the cyclical nature of abusive relationships. This cycle can repeat many times throughout the course of a relationship. Each phase may last a different length of time and over time the level of violence may increase.

If you have any questions about the information provided on this page, please contact our 24 Helpline at 410-836-8430